We always seem to be searching for the extraordinary. There is a sense that we almost crave what is new, different, and more unique. That desire fuels creativity and invention, and pushes us to explore new frontiers. That same desire can lead to pain and destruction, and can cause us to miss the blessings that are already ours.
During our recent Adirondack vacation, we decided to go out for pizza. The pizza shop we chose had tables outside, and a decent size arcade attached to the building. While we were enjoying our food, two families sat down at a nearby table with their’s. The parents were busy talking and making plans for the next day, while the children were eating as quickly as possible so they could go play in the arcade. I am not sure they tasted their meal as they focused on games to be played and prizes to be won.
Watching this unfold made me smile, as I remembered similar times with our children, but it also made me think about how easily I become so captured by what is coming next that I forget to enjoy what I am doing now. I think we all have our versions of missing the moment while striving to get to the next one.
“Living for the weekend,” is a way of life for many people. Mondays are despised, and we celebrate completing “hump day,” all in the desire to get to our brief time off before we do it again next week. Look closely, and you realize that people are trying to power through almost two-thirds of their lives to enjoy what is left. I wonder how often those weekends were worth the rush.
Ordinary seems boring, but ordinary is a blessing. Ordinary is what makes some of the most meaningful experiences in marriages and vocations. When we only strive for the extraordinary, we can suffer great dissatisfaction with our lives and relationships, believing there is something better somewhere else. If we are not careful, we stop caring for what we have while we pursue an elusive dream. Ordinary is the source of structure and a sign of some stability. Ordinary makes up most of our lives, and those parts are no less valuable than the exciting, extraordinary moments.
The early Christians sought to mark the year with days and seasons that helped retell the gracious message of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. The set aside Easter Day and Eastertide to celebrate the power of the Resurrection. They affirmed the 40 days of Lent to prepare for that celebration. They marked the birth of the Savior with the Christmas season, and gave us the season of Advent to discover the deeper meaning of anticipation. Still, in all of the church calendar, the longest single season is, you guessed it, Ordinary time. It is a season that covers the time following Pentecost in late May, till the first day of Advent in early November. The ancients knew that life, even the Christian life, was mostly ordinary time.
Jesus taught the blessing of the ordinary as well. When he taught, he used illustrations from the daily lives and experiences of the people to convey powerful truths about the kingdom of God. Agricultural references, experiences with friends and neighbors, and symbols of creation made regular appearances in his teaching. Perhaps the greatest example is found in the moments of the Last Supper, when our celebration of Communion was instituted. With all the resources and options at his disposal, Jesus chose the ordinary, basics of life, bread and wine, to represent his life broken and poured out for all the world. In these simple gifts, we find the most extraordinary truth: God takes ordinary things and ordinary people and makes them beautiful expressions of God’s love.
Something else happened during our pizza shop experience. I saw a deer, a beautiful doe who wandered through the parking lot, nibbling at some grass along the edges. Seeing deer in the mountains is not surprising, nor is how easily everyone else missed the ubiquitous visitor. Still, just because she was ordinary, she was no less beautiful and, while I’ve seen many deer, I never saw this one before. What some would call “ordinary,” I call a blessing, one more sign of beauty and a great memory.
Maybe, it is time for us to stop running from the ordinary and embrace it instead, as the place of God’s great blessings. Instead of striving to get to something else, we can appreciate what we have right here, right now. Maybe we need to be more intentional about seeking, “eyes to see and ears to hear,” in order to celebrate what God is doing and saying in the present moment. We can still rejoice in extraordinary times, but we can find peace in ordinary moments with an extraordinary God. Together, may we realize how rich we truly are with God’s ordinary blessings.
